Author: Philip Nork
All Things That Matter Press
Pleasure is relative. Happiness is absolute. It is the understanding
and acceptance of life as it is. You now know that you are accepted
for who you are, so go and be happy.
(from the book)
“Misguided Sensitivity” (previously published as Sensitivity 101) talks about the journey that each of us are on in this lifetime. A journey that is unique to each of us. How the people that we meet on our journey have the power to change how we think, how we act, and who we are.
Nork notes that this is a book that is based on truth, with names and places changed to protect the participant’s wishes for total privacy. He also notes that the lessons are valid, and allowed him the opportunity to gain new perspective on how his life turned out. The same method that Bork used to analyze the effect that other people had on his life can be used as a powerful tool for the reader to interpret how the people they have met have influenced who they are. The gift here – the reader is also given an opportunity to see themselves from a new perspective.
The journey for the individual in this book begins in a small town in Missouri, in the 1960’s. It was Ozzie and Harriet time, with neighbors knowing neighbors. Our individual is the oldest of three children, He was a child with a special gift – the ability to make others feel good. A slight tilt to the Ozzie and Harriet theme – the children were raised by a divorced mother and her family. (The father deserted the family when the main character was eight years old. He then became the “man of the house”.)
The main character felt that he was to blame for his parents divorce. His personality changed from extrovert to introvert overnight. He became attached to country music, as it seemed to mirror his life. Through his grandmother, he learned about religion and faith. However, the family was Catholic, and he had a hard time relating to the priest delivering the sermons. He was right – the priest was later removed from the church for stealing money, drinking, and molesting alter boys.
Along with the grandmother’s influence was that of the great-grandmother, a figure that our main character was very close to. From her, he learned to anticipate storms when the smell of rain came. She also taught him this lesson – If you want people to remember you, be different, be sincere, and make them feel special.
Written in autobiographical style, “Misguided Sensitivity” tells the life story of one individual in small sound bites – the people and issues that influenced him on his path. Part of this was the influence of his grandmother and great-grandmother, and part of it was the conversations that he overheard between his mother and friends of hers that were divorced or separated. He began to notice how men and women interacted, and how they tended to see things differently. One of his goals became to discover what women wanted from men, and how to give it to them.
Through interacting with various girls and women throughout his life, the main character learns specific lessons, which he highlights with each character that he discusses. Lessons also came to him in a very different manner – through visions of his deceased grandmother.
The really cool thing about this book – the main character talks about his experiences, but the girls and women that were involved with him, that helped him learn his lessons, get their chance to tell their story from their personal points of view.
This is very much a coming of age story … one that addresses our relation with ourselves, with others, and with Spirit. The lessons the main character learns in this book are listed, as he learns them. Each time a new lesson is learned, it is added to the list. Above all, show respect for yourself and the people around you. Listen closely, and follow directions. Use the gifts that you were born with for the greater good.
This is a tremendously good read, and could very well help those who are still trying to define their path in life, or to understand the path they are on.
© August 2012 Bonnie Cehovet